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About Me
I am a Lifestyle Dominant Woman. I just here to looking for GOOD meet people and make new Friendships & Network. I love Tickle Fetishist and Bondage Training. If you would like to know about me. Ropes, Pleasures, Arts & BDSM Sex Life.
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Why Can’t Submissive Men Be Tickled To Arousal?
I had a great time with a submissive man a few weeks ago. He is hyper sensitive with bondage and I enjoy that a lot. He made me laugh and feel powerful. Using a submissive is a form of therapy for me.
We met at his condo in Manhattan. I tied him up first then put him on the bed. Tied each limb to the corner of bed. He had no idea what I was going to do. I walked around his place to take a look and found music. I turned on some loud sexy music.
Sub: Oh no no no please. I am begging you. I am so embarrassed.
Me: How dare you! I can’t hear you. You know better!
I put a heavy tape over his mouth. He couldn’t talk to me again. I told him: “I am going to scratch you more thantickle. He screamed and laughed at same time, (moaning) breathing heavy. I kept playing different spots on him. I added feather to tickle his balls. He became freak, he could not deal with spots.
Me: Do you want to try and escape from me?
Sub: Yes, (head move up and down) then he tried to get out.
I played mind games, teasing him, tickling him. I was laughing at him. I have heard about tickling someone to arousal, so I encouraged him with a feather on the top of his cock and he got an erection easily, but when I started to tickle him harder he lost his erection. I was laughing so hard at him. Then I force him to get an erection again. I learned that the most fun part for him was the conflict between trying to keep erection at same time pleasing me, but he couldn’t, because I was denying him. I told him: if you can’t give pleasure to me then the ticking will continue. He couldn’t move so he didn’t have a choice.
When tickle I like the challenge of playing with submissive mentality and sexuality at the same time.
My question, I have heard about tickling that leads to orgasm, especially with submissive women. Why can’t submissive men be tickled to orgasm as well?
“A Day without laughter is day wasted.” Charlie Chaplin
TesFest 08
Last weekend I went to TesFest for the first time. The TesFest classes were much better than the classes at Black Rose last year.
Speed Bondage was an amazing class presented by Lochai. I learned some new and exciting things, it helped increase my confidence and speed. After the presentation I went to vendors area and brought high quality rope for the first time. 2 15 foot and 2 of 30 foot hemp ropes from Venus Ropes. Afterwards, I found two cute boytoys for ropes play. I loved my new rope. I could feel the difference from using cotton and nylon.
At night I walked though the dungeon area. I was hopping to find a cute and younger sub for practicing my rope skills but couldn’t find any I was attracted to. I saw one Dominant guy beating up, tying and wrestling with a submissive man. It was the hottest thing I ever saw. I was turned on by watching it and it made me feel jealous.
Oh fucking my god! My best friend’s friend got extremely bruised from a caning session. I’ve never seen anything like it. I beating a boy that badly, then I would fucking him with strap-on and, making him a slut.
The Suspension presentation by Amanda was canceled because of medical emergency so, I went to Electricity: Shockingly Affordable presented by BoyMeat. I have never been interested in electro play, but after the presentation I realized I how much fun it could be. Electro play is really very powerful both sexually and psychologically. That was my favorite class by far!
Laughter Bondage was presented by Lochia is was one of my favorite’s as well. Lochia could be a stand up comedian.
I love water Bondage class presented by Lolita, Felica and Sharin as well.
The Nude Beach
I went with my friends to the nude beach at Fire Island last 2 weeks . The day was mostly cloudy until about 11:30, then the sun came out; thank God.
My friend told me about a weirdo. He warned me, but I wasn’t paying attention. He kept telling me about a man who kept staring at women. I just nodded. I lay on the sand, relaxing, then I started to smoke. My legs were spread open to keep my pussy cool.
A man suddenly came up to me: “Can I borrow your lighter?” I closed my legs. I realized that my friend was right. I gave him a light. His cock was already erect in front of me. I felt sick looking at it.
After a few minutes he sat down on the sand and began to finger his girlfriend’s (or wife’s) pussy while she was reading a book. The women was not pretty and she was overweight. I could see she was enjoying it. Obviously he was very obsessed with pussy. I couldn’t believe they were doing this in public. If I were in his position I would do bondage play on the beach, but not in such a sexual way - erotic, maybe; but not sexual.
Bondage and Kidnap
I have always wanted to satisfy my by desire to kidnap a submissive man and have never been able to get over that feeling. So I decide to captured a man. It happened in about 4-5 years ago. I told a submissive man though ALT.com that we would meet at a store in NJ as complete strangers. We exchanged pictures. We had never meet before.
I stopped by the shopping center and started shopping for ropes, tape, socks, ace bandage and eggs. I saw him in there. I wore a wig and he had no idea who I was. I approached him and without warning began to tie him up. He was losing all controll and frightened by my control. I put sock in his mouth and wrapped his face in ace bandage, then with tape to hold everything in place. People in the shopping center were looking at us in shock. They must have thought we were crazy but I was enjoying seeing him try to escape from all the pressure and stress.
I threw him in the back of my car and I started to drive.
Then it happened, the police stopped me about 3 miles away from the store and the officer approached me;
Officer: “What’s going on here? Are you trying to kidnap this man?”
Me : No, Sir. It’s just my boytoy.
Police ”Are you a kidnapper ” (shouting)
Me: (gesturing to communicate) I cant hear you. I have nothing to do with any kidnapping. (gesturing to communicate)
Police ” Our main concerned right now is wether or not you’ve kidnapped a man” (losing his patience and orders me to stepped out of my car)
Me: (laughing)
When I opened the door in rear, the officer pulled ace bandage off of my boytoy and yanked the sock out of his mouth.
Police: Are you OK? Are you hurt?
boytoy: “I’m fine Sir, I’m just playing the role of a submissive, I wanted her to kidnapped me.” (nervous)
Me: This is not exhibitionist behavior. We’re not doing anything illegal. This is all 100% consensual.
The officer called headquarters to check the with his superiors. Finally, he let us go.
Oh My Fucking God I laughed so hard. I drove and parked about 10 miles from there and began to kick and beat him. Threw the eggs on him for humiliation and forced him to pee on his pants. Yes it sounds insane but it was so much fun. I played with him for a bit longer, playing the part of kidnapper and helpless victim. He was a great actor and pleased me a very well.
Tickle Fetishist & BFT
Seven - eight months ago I realized I have a tickle fetish. I feel it fits in well with my personal style. I get a wonderful sense of power to tickle someone who sees that I am having fun. I want a submissive man who wants to surrender himself to me. He wants to please me and knows that it makes me laugh for my pleasure and even arousal! I love seeing a submissive laugh, beg, and his obviously totally helplessness. I also like to training MY SUB to BUILD tolerance. I am sure that submissive MEN are familiar with CBT, but I’m sure they’ve never heard of Ball Fucking Torture (BFT) before. That’s my name for it.
I realize I have a talent with tickle techinques but I’ve learned that some subs are not sensitive to tickling and and Ball Fuck Torture.
I think it would be great to use the Violent Wand Tickler. It would make him more sensitive and that would increase my excitement. I would love add a vibrating butt plug, I do enjoy seeing a submissive man freaking out.
Once, one of my submissive men was massaging my back and I could tell he wanted to smell my ass even though I told him not to. He didn’t seem to understand the severity of my warning. When he started the massage he was not doing a good job. I turned to look and caught him smelling my ass. I freak him out with a ball fucking for his punishment. He was not expecting it and it surprised him!
I enjoy it to making my man my toy , to let me decide how much he will suffer…..
How long he will suffer…..
How intensely he will suffer ……
Unless I give him a break, a chance to breathe….
And… how long his break will last before the agony resumes.
Sub: “The feeling of helplessness is intoxicating …a sub high ….. it is something we try to avoid in normal life. We have a deep instinct to avoid that feeling. But that is what makes being a submissive so amazing.. the desire to become completely helpless to someone, as a form of intimacy.”
Me: (Fucked harder!) you disobeyed.
Sub: “ouch pleeeeaaasssseee, (head shaked) stop! that! It hurts! Breathlessness.
Me: After orgasm, I laugh so hard.
I demand total submission and worship from his heart … if he can’t, then the tickling and teasing will continue.
Sub: ” If I do worship successfully and you can feel it, then I might get a small break from the tickling, plus a little bit of teasing pleasure if I’m very good.”
Sub: “Did I pleased you?”
Yes, you are being good boy.
Sub “I was regretful what I had done to you.”
Damn! He is such a good sub! Sexy? I like psychological torture rather than physical torture.
Few submissive men understand it the way he does.
Fantasy of Chastity and Sex
My god! Stainless steel is a charge for $1650.
I am calling this the “Knight Chasitiy Belt”.
I would love to buy this one someday.
Yummy it gives me Strap-On thoughts.
I have never kept a submissive man in a chastity device. I like the idea of my submissive man being under my control. I would love to have power over a younger man.
My question is, can a man be really denied permanently? I think there is a practice known as prostate milking for man’s health. I know a man can be denied orgasm practically forever, but I think this may not be healthy for a man. Pro Dommes carry-out their activities in a mechanical, unfeeling way they have no love for what they do enforcing chastity. It is just a job for them. I feel that Pro Dommes who never allow a man to orgasm are being abusive. I would not want it to be abusive.
Most men want to come almost everyday, but I would deny this of my sub. I know that men have a habit of masturbation but if my sub were to give-in to this habit I would feel betrayed. I am sure that man would have problems resisting the temptation to pleasure himself. I like the idea of using a chastity device to enforce my control over his sexuality. Once I have had my satisfaction, I will permit him at least one orgasm per a week for his sexual release. It relaxes both the body and the mind.
Of course, a man needs to take a shower everyday. When he releases the chastity device, I will be there with him while he cleans himself and the device. I want to make sure that he DOES NOT MASTURBATE. Then, he can put the chastity device back on. I feel that is real orgasm denial and it would make him feel like a real submissive.
I like keeping a man aroused and denial is a great techniques for my own pleasure. A few examples, If my sub is begging me for sexual relief I love playing this game of sexual mind control over him. I would tease him with strap on play. Or I would give him cleaning assignments, making sure he did a satisfactory job in my apartment in order for me allow him an orgasm the next time. Other times, if the sub is released from the device, I would love to have intercourse with him but I think this is not an option because I am sure he would be susceptible to premature ejaculation. Also, a sub would be able to pleasure himself in other ways too. If I really want to fuck, I can cuff or tie up his hands to ensure that he does not touch his cock. He will pleasure me orally while also using his fingers or a dildo. After my orgasm, I would tell the sub to go buy a cold turkey and make him masturbate in front of me.
I enjoy psychological power exchange that allow my dominant nature and sexual desire. It would be nice to have a sub who would rather give me pleasure than to receive pleasure himself. One of my submissive men is capable of giving me the most incredible orgasm of my life. He drives me crazy sexuality and makes me horny every time I think about it which is often. This kind of pleasure is an incredible experience. I want to feel the power of my sexual fantasy.
I imagine making a contract that explains in detail the kind of life I want my sub to live. I would want his cock to belong to me and be a toy for my pleasure. I would like to try it for a month at first. I would want to see how a sub explores these experiences.
Lifestyle Dominant Woman Is A Male Fantasy?
My friends and I were talking about strap-on play. They were wondering if the lifestyle Dominant woman was just a male fantasy. My thought was no. A few days later, I had been thinking and realized that the answer was actually yes. I have strong fantasy for submissive man that make me feel Powerful and enjoy lots.
I think most Pro Domme are just play acting but they have no idea how to really work a male. Submissive men should not accept these Women as Powerful without knowing anything about them. Their weakness shows in their faked orgasms.
I remember using when I first purchased a strap-on. I admired myself in the mirror and played with my teddy bear. That was one lucky bear. Most women use harness with more than 7″ dildo but I’m use a leather harness with a 5″ dildo, my hips get a better feel for the action and my clit gets better stimulation. Dominant Woman are look at over the size of the dildo, they prefer to use. I wonder how they get the same stimulation from a 7″ dildo.
My Dominant personality resembles what most men refer to as a bitch. These demanding Women should force submissive men not arouse them. That is about Powerful. If a true submissive MAN knows the proper way to serve a Woman, that makes them more desirable to other strong Women. My fantasy is for all men to marry Women who use strap-ons. It would benefit all of us Women. I think it is a good idea to keep a strap-on around. A strap-on seems, at first, like a very physical practice - but it is also very psychological.
I like to feel like a physically strong Woman. I want them to clearly understand who is the Dominant one. I wish I could use my voice so (good) I could using vocal so submissive men know exactly what I’m thinking. But I am hearing impaired. So, when I get the urge for my bitch to suck deep my strap-on I expect to ensure that it is. I love Fuck my submissive men in a lot of different positions, with bondage, over couches, over bathtub, on dinner tables, wherever I want. One of my favorite positions is to have the submissive man on his back him as he stands, and his wrists raised so he is forced to bend over, pull hair, fuck, spank hard and hard. I love grabbing from submissive man’s powerful. Also, I enjoyed insulting men masculinity while I fuck them. I tell them exactly what kind of a “man” I think they are and they know I mean it. My fantasy male starts off being powerful; but I strip away his strength and sense of his masculinity.
Wish a Submissive Like My Best Friend
I met my friend in 5 years ago, having no idea he would become my best friend a few years later. We were friend, but after a few months we became a couple. He was vanilla but a very open-minded. I had never been tell anyone about my desire. I have always felt a very different from everyone. I told him about wanting to controlled of my need for being understood. I always felt some of submissive who seems are not opened mind, judgment and fear of being share with.
I was shared my feel with him, for the first time I feel normal. I have such a peace inside me, a total and complete freeness. I never thought I would ever feel. Couldn’t have even imagined what it would feel like. I shared with my best friend about my dominant side, instead of rejecting me, he loved me even more. It was the first time anyone had ever truly seen all of me. I was having been able to finally tell the secret I kept for 8 years in BDSM experience. He was thought of I am a unique in his life. He was first learned about a priority for telling personal things to, sharing adventures, and serving to that he never have had before. He were a great guy. In 2 weeks ago, I was rushed into the hospital but it was too late. I have completed lost hope and I might definitely never shared my feeling with anyone.
I have hard to find a submissive like him who having able to mutually beneficial relationship for service me and share with a heart. Absolutely, I do not interested in a relationship but some submissive are think this is being in a relationship. My best friend were a special for being understood about my strong dominant desire. This is nothing Right or Wrong but I know some of you might think that is not necessarily share most of your feelings and experiences?
Beginning Journal
I will be staring a good way to journal my search for a submissive man. I hope I would get some good advice from you so, give me some ideas. In stating your thoughts and feelings, others may see that they are not alone in their dominant or submissive tendencies.